1. Not everyone will like you. Through out the school career- elementary to high school, we all encounter someone who doesn’t exactly like us. As we get older, the number grows bigger… Especially in high school. Sometimes people won’t like you because you’re too rude, look better than them, are funnier than them, smarter than them… The list goes on. Sometimes people don’t like you just simply because they don’t like you. Accept it. But, don’t let it stop you from being who you are. The best thing in life to be is yourself, and I promise you will find those who accept who you truly are. You can’t please everyone without being fake, and even then it’s difficult- so stop trying.
2. People will talk about you. There will always be something said about you, whether you’re doing bad or good. Sometimes these things will be true, and sometimes they won’t. Most of the time, people will believe them. You know the truth, and the people that truly know you will know the truth as well. There is nothing you can do about it. There is not enough “keep my name out of your mouth“s in every high school in the world to stop a b*tchy girl from continuing to talk about you, or boys getting ahold of it and making it worse. It is going to happen. You have to accept it. Laugh it off. There will be something new next week. The sharpie fades off the bathroom walls. The tweet stops getting favorites. Life goes on.
3. You are going to make mistakes. EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES. It is inevitable, especially in high school. You’ll accidentally copy the wrong person’s homework, and get a bad grade. You probably won’t even do it sometimes. You’re going to talk about your friends, and they’ll find out. You’re going to be mean to the wrong person, you’re going to say stuff that you regret. You’ll be mean to your mom because you hated school today. You’ll say something hurtful to your dad because he’s grumpy from work. You’ll yell at your brother just because he wants to be around you. You’ll fail a test, maybe two. It happens. With this being said, the people you love make mistakes, too. Your friends will talk about you. Your teacher will accidentally put the wrong grade in. Your mom will take her anger out from a bad day on you. Your dad will get mad at you over something your sibling did. You’ll get in an argument with your boyfriend/girlfriend and you’ll both say things out of anger that you don’t mean. It’s okay. Remember that you make mistakes, too. Forgiving is an option, don’t hold grudges so much that you become bitter.
4. You don’t have to do what others are doing. People you know are going to drink alcohol and do drugs and rebel against their parents and ditch their friends and act like they don’t care about school. You don’t have to do what other people are doing just because it’s what’s ‘in’. If you’re a partier, party on. If you’re a home body, stay home. Do whatever you want, not what others what you to do. You aren’t cool because you drink and go to Waffle House at 2 AM. You aren’t cool because you get high and come to school. You aren’t cool because you are mean to your friends, boyfriend, girlfriend, or innocent people. You aren’t cool because you sit in class and don’t do your work. Don’t confine yourself to what others do just because you think it makes you cool. Chances are, it won’t make you cool. It’ll just leave you hungover.
5. The friends you make now might not be here in the future. I’ve learned this in more ways than one.
• You (or they) might move away. I don’t mean 15 minutes, or even 30. Like hours away. The good ones will be there, but not everyday like they used to be. Not physically there in class to cause interruptions with, to walk the hallways with, or to stay the night with every night you get the chance. It’s fun to visit them, to FaceTime, and to text. But, you don’t get to experience all of high school with them and it sucks.
•They will stab you in the back. Some friends just do that. It’s hard and heart breaking and angering, but there is nothing you can do. If a friend you have is constantly hurting you, there is no need for them to be a part of your future. Even your present.
• You just grow apart. You get different classes, different friends, different interests. They may start partying too often, or maybe they’re the type that doesn’t keep up with your social fun. You go from staying the night, to not even a text. Maybe sometimes, “I haven’t seen you in a while.” And sometimes, you walk right by a person and you don’t even know them anymore. They look right at you, and then you walk away.
Bottom line, high school can be the best and worst times of your life. Sometimes, you just have to accept these things and just move on.
(To all my friends I moved away from, I think about you every single day.)